Step Onto My Path With Your Head In Hand

The Gurbani or the Wisdom of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS) places emphasis and focus on our minds. For it’s the mind that needs to become Sikh, hence it’s the mind that needs to bathe in the pool Wisdom of the SGGS.

The lasting Virtuous life, Blissful life, or the Gurmukh Lifestyle cannot be realized without first annihilating doubts or the doubt-ridden mind, arrogance and false ego-sense (Haumai). Stilling of the false ego-sense is also considered becoming living dead or living liberated (Jeevan Mukt) — as if one has died to the world while still alive. Such person becomes unaffected by the likes and dislikes (i.e., duality).

  • ਜਉ ਤਉ ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਖੇਲਣ ਕਾ ਚਾਉ ॥ ਸਿਰੁ ਧਰਿ ਤਲੀ ਗਲੀ ਮੇਰੀ ਆਉ ॥ ਇਤੁ ਮਾਰਗਿ ਪੈਰੁ ਧਰੀਜੈ ॥ ਸਿਰੁ ਦੀਜੈ ਕਾਣਿ ਨ ਕੀਜੈ ॥੨੦॥: If you desire to play this game of Divine Love with Me, then step onto My Way putting your head on palm. When you place your foot on this Way, give up your head (false ego-sense), do not be afraid or shrink ||20||. (sggs 1412).
  • ਗਗਨ ਦਮਾਮਾ ਬਾਜਿਓ ਪਰਿਓ ਨੀਸਾਨੈ ਘਾਉ ॥ ਖੇਤੁ ਜੁ ਮਾਂਡਿਓ ਸੂਰਮਾ ਅਬ ਜੂਝਨ ਕੋ ਦਾਉ ॥੧॥: The battle-drum beats (in the sky of the mind – i.e., one soars height of Spiritual Consciousness); aim strike the aim (Dasam Duaar – Tenth Gate). The spiritual warrior enters this field of battle; (he knows that) now is the time to fight (with Bikaar, Haumai…)!
  • ਦਾਗੇ ਹੋਹਿ ਸੁ ਰਨ ਮਹਿ ਜੂਝਹਿ ਬਿਨੁ ਦਾਗੇ ਭਗਿ ਜਾਈ ॥:  They who are branded (with Bhagti; have burnt Haumai, lust, anger, greed, etc.) fight bravely in battle  (with Bikaar, Haumai…) and the unbranded ones run away. (sggs 970).

What does it mean “step onto My Way putting your head on palm”? Does it mean that you have to commit suicide?

In reality, the Guru does not want us to literally chop the head off and place it on the palm! In nutshell, in spiritual parlance, dying or death or “with your head in hand” essentially indicates:

  • Killing, eradication or death of one’s false ego-sense or Haumai. Killing the ego (Haumai) simply means killing that consciousness of “I, me, mine” which is the very center of our existence. Ego makes a man selfish, angry, greedy, overly attached to Maya, arrogant, and so on — the root of all trouble in the world.
  • Eradication of pride, arrogance,  conceit, or Ahankaar and becoming truly humble (“dust of the feet of all”).
  • Annihilation  of the mind — complete surrender of one’s head (egotism).
  • Death of doubts.
  • Unburdening onself of the old ideas about spirituality propagated by the crafty Pujaaee system — death of thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that are not congruent with the Wisdom of the SGGS.
  • Forgetting old ideas and theories about spirituality that are not in harmony with the Gurmat (Wisdom of the SGGS).
  • Total submission to the true Wisdom of the SGGS in daily life.
  • Eradication of one’s self-centeredness while still alive.
  • Removing fear of death out of the way while still alive: becoming living liberated or living dead — the real death!
  • Giving up attachment to Maya, body, material possessions, Bikaar (lust, anger, greed,  etc.).
  • Dying in the Shabad.

If it means killing your own false ego-sense (Haumai), why should you do it? What do you gain by it? And how do you kill your false ego-sense (Haumai) if that is what it means? The SGGS puts it in very simple terms:

  • ਜਗੁ ਬਿਨਸਤ ਹਮ ਦੇਖਿਆ ਲੋਭੇ ਅਹੰਕਾਰਾ ॥: I have seen the world being destroyed by greed (i.e., Bikaar) and egotism. (sggs 228).
  • ਮਾਨ ਮੁਨੀ ਮੁਨਿਵਰ ਗਲ  ਮਾਨੁ ਸਭੈ ਕਉ ਖਾਇ ॥: Even the Munis (pious persons…) and the best of Munis were destroyed by pride, the pride eats up all. (sggs 1372).

In fact, the whole purpose of religion is to kill the false ego-sense, the individual self.  We are asked to listen/read, understand and live in daily life  the Wisdom (Giaan) given by the Sri Guru Granth Sahib (SGGS) so that we can live a purpose-driven life, so that we can live with humility and steer away from worldly temptations and pitfalls.But it takes courage to do this. It is like chewing steel balls or jumping into a fire without getting burnt! Not impossible, but difficult indeed!

  • ਕੰਚਨ ਸਿਉ ਪਾਈਐ ਨਹੀ ਤੋਲਿ ॥ ਮਨੁ ਦੇ ਰਾਮੁ ਲੀਆ ਹੈ ਮੋਲਿ ॥੧॥: (Raam – Mool) cannot be obtained by giving gold equal to (one’s) weight. (But, say Kabeer, I) have bought (i.e., Realized, Experienced, etc.) Raam by giving my mind (Haumai, ego, etc.) to Him ||1|| (sggs 327).

Those “rare” spiritual heroes who do it, they reach their Mool or Source, within.

  • ਨਾਨਕ ਸੇਵਕੁ ਸੋਈ ਆਖੀਐ ਜੋ ਸਿਰੁ ਧਰੇ ਉਤਾਰਿ ॥:  O Nanak! he alone is called a Sevak (Daas, Bhagat, Gurmukh…) who cuts off his head (i.e., false ego-sense, pride…). (sggs 1247).

So the Gurbani challenges us: “step onto My Way putting your head on palm”!

  • ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਸੇਵਾ ਗਾਖੜੀ ਸਿਰੁ ਦੀਜੈ ਆਪੁ ਗਵਾਇ ॥: It is very difficult to serve the Satigur (Shabad-Vichaar); (it’s difficult because to do so one must) surrender head (ego, self-conceit…) – give up ownself or selfhood (ਆਪਾ-ਭਾਵ ਦੂਰ ਕਰ ਕੇ). (sggs 649).
  • ਪਹਿਲਾ ਮਰਣੁ ਕਬੂਲਿ ਜੀਵਣ ਕੀ ਛਡਿ ਆਸ ॥ ਹੋਹੁ ਸਭਨਾ ਕੀ ਰੇਣੁਕਾ ਤਉ ਆਉ ਹਮਾਰੈ ਪਾਸਿ ॥੧॥: First accept death and give up the desire for life (i.e., give up attachment to body…). Become the dust of the feet of all (i.e., become truly humble…), then, come to me. ||1|| (sggs 1102).
  • ਸਬਦਿ ਮਰਹੁ ਫਿਰਿ ਜੀਵਹੁ ਸਦ ਹੀ ਤਾ ਫਿਰਿ ਮਰਣੁ ਨ ਹੋਈ ॥:  If you die through the Shabad, then you will live forever, you will not spiritually die again. (sggs 604).

There are two types of diseases — physical or external diseases (i.e., cancer, etc.), and mental or internal diseases (i.e., Haumai or false ego sense, etc.).

The medicine (Daaroo) to cure the physical or external diseases is also outside — if the disease is outside, the medicine to cure it is also outside.

However, the medicine (Daaroo) to cure the internal or mental diseases is within — if the disease is inside, the medicine to cure it is also inside.

  • ਐਸਾ ਦਾਰੂ ਖਾਹਿ ਗਵਾਰ ॥ ਜਿਤੁ ਖਾਧੈ ਤੇਰੇ ਜਾਹਿ ਵਿਕਾਰ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥: O fool! Take such medicine, by which your Vikaar (inner diseases) will be cured. ||1||Pause|| (sggs 1257).

That medicine (Daaroo) which cures the inner diseases is the Wisdom of the Gur-Shabad — the true understanding of the Gur-Shabad through efforts (i.e., Shabad-Vichaar), and then sincere implementation or practice of that Wisdom of the Gur-Shabad in daily life. The SGGS confirms it as follows:

  • ਹਉਮੈ ਦੀਰਘ ਰੋਗੁ ਹੈ ਦਾਰੂ ਭੀ ਇਸੁ ਮਾਹਿ ॥ ਕਿਰਪਾ ਕਰੇ ਜੇ ਆਪਣੀ ਤਾ ਗੁਰ ਕਾ ਸਬਦੁ ਕਮਾਹਿ ॥: Ego is a chronic disease, but it contains its own cure as well. (This disease of one’s egotism will get cured within only) if (he) grants own favor, and then practices (Shabad-Vichaar) or lives according to the Wisdom of the Gur-Shabad. (sggs 466).

Complete surrender destroys ego (Haumai). The ultimate surrender is when the mind stands conquered — lives daily life in total harmony with the Wisdom of the SGGS.

The Gur-Shabad is like a flowing River. Surrendering or giving head is like jumping into this River of Existence, which has no ego. Instead, It is a Pure Consciousness that destroys the ego and helps us experience Truth.

We can take plunge now or just wait standing at the shore of This River. It is our choice. The River is always there, ready and willing to accept us and cleanse us, and take us to the Ocean (of Pure Consciousness). The SGGS asserts nobody else can do it for us.

Our ego is like a mountain of ice floating in the Ocean. When it melts, it loses its individual identity (ego or Haumai – separateness, two-ness, division, fragmentation, etc.) and becomes One with the Ocean, the Source.

  • ਇਹੁ ਸਿਰੁ ਦੀਜੈ ਆਪੁ ਗਵਾਏ ॥: Offer head (to the Guru) by shedding self-conceit (ਆਪਾ-ਭਾਵ ਦੂਰ ਕਰ ਕੇ). (sggs 424).

To put it otherwise, the Gurbani challenges us not to yield to ego (Haumai). Instead, we are urged to yield to the Wisdom of the SGGS (Gurmukh Lifestyle).

  • ਤਨੁ ਮਨੁ ਗੁਰ ਪਹਿ ਵੇਚਿਆ ਮਨੁ ਦੀਆ ਸਿਰੁ ਨਾਲਿ ॥ ਤ੍ਰਿਭਵਣੁ ਖੋਜਿ ਢੰਢੋਲਿਆ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਖੋਜਿ ਨਿਹਾਲਿ ॥: (One who has) sold his body and mind to the Guru, and (along with his) mind has given his head as well, by becoming the Gurmukh he has found God (within) to whom he was seeking throughout the three worlds (sggs 20).

Before milk is poured into a vessel (ਭਾਂਡਾ-Bhaandaa), we wash it clean and dry it out. After making sure the vessel is thoroughly clean and dry, then we pour milk in it. Similarly, before we can pour the milk of the Wisdom of the SGGS (Gur-Giaan) into our mind, it must be thoroughly cleansed of inner garbage — thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, ideas, negativity, etc., that are not congruent with the Wisdom of the SGGS. The SGGS asserts that nobody else can do it for anybody else.

  • ਭਾਂਡਾ ਧੋਇ ਬੈਸਿ ਧੂਪੁ ਦੇਵਹੁ ਤਉ ਦੂਧੈ ਕਉ ਜਾਵਹੁ ॥  ਦੂਧੁ ਕਰਮ ਫੁਨਿ ਸੁਰਤਿ ਸਮਾਇਣੁ ਹੋਇ ਨਿਰਾਸ ਜਮਾਵਹੁ ॥੧॥:  (To obtain butter, first) you wash the vessel, let it sit in the sun (so it can dry out), then you go out and get the milk (in that vessel and then curdle it). (Similarly, to obtain the butter of Naam or Wisdom, pour) the milk of good Karma (in the clean vessel of the mind), add the rennet of clear consciousness to the milk of good Karma, and then, free of desires, let it curdle. ||1|| (sggs 728).
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  1. Khushmeet kaur

    Sat sri akal veerji.ki ashi swas-swas guru shabad di kamaye kar parmathma tak pauch sakde ha? Is my this thinking correctly describes that guru (guru Shahbad) is a boat which carries our soul across?

    • Yes, the SGGS asserts:
      • ਸਬਦਿ ਮਰੈ ਮਨੁ ਮਾਰੈ ਅਪੁਨਾ ਮੁਕਤੀ ਕਾ ਦਰੁ ਪਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੩॥: (Who) dies in the Shabad, annihilates his own mind, and obtains the Door of Liberation. ||3|| (sggs 117).
      • ਗੁਰ ਕੈ ਸਬਦਿ ਜੀਵਤੁ ਮਰੈ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਭਵਜਲੁ ਤਰਣਾ ॥੨॥: Through the Gur-Shabad, the Gurmukh remains dead while yet alive, and swims across the world-ocean (of Maya…). ||2|| (sggs 69).

      • Khushmeet kaur

        Veerji why family and world do not support a gurmukh?why guru is the only support of Gurmukh?who wants to die in the shabad.

        • SGGS asserts:
          • ਜੋ ਸੰਸਾਰੈ ਕੇ ਕੁਟੰਬ ਮਿਤ੍ਰ ਭਾਈ ਦੀਸਹਿ ਮਨ ਮੇਰੇ ਤੇ ਸਭਿ ਅਪਨੈ ਸੁਆਇ ਮਿਲਾਸਾ ॥ ਜਿਤੁ ਦਿਨਿ ਉਨ੍ਹ੍ਹ ਕਾ ਸੁਆਉ ਹੋਇ ਨ ਆਵੈ ਤਿਤੁ ਦਿਨਿ ਨੇੜੈ ਕੋ ਨ ਢੁਕਾਸਾ ॥: O my mind! The kindreds, friends and brothers that you see in the world, all meet you for their self-interest. The day, when their self-interest is not served, that day none comes near you (sggs 860). (sggs 860).
          • ਇਕਿ ਅਪਣੈ ਸੁਆਇ ਆਇ ਬਹਹਿ ਗੁਰ ਆਗੈ ਜਿਉ ਬਗੁਲ ਸਮਾਧਿ ਲਗਾਈਐ ॥੩॥: Some come for their own self-interest, and sit before the Guru; they pretend to be in Samaadhi, like the crane! ||3|| (sggs 881).
          • ਜਗਤ ਮੈ ਝੂਠੀ ਦੇਖੀ ਪ੍ਰੀਤਿ ॥ ਅਪਨੇ ਹੀ ਸੁਖ ਸਿਉ ਸਭ ਲਾਗੇ ਕਿਆ ਦਾਰਾ ਕਿਆ ਮੀਤ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ ਮੇਰਉ ਮੇਰਉ ਸਭੈ ਕਹਤ ਹੈ ਹਿਤ ਸਿਉ ਬਾਧਿਓ ਚੀਤ ॥ ਅੰਤਿ ਕਾਲਿ ਸੰਗੀ ਨਹ ਕੋਊ ਇਹ ਅਚਰਜ ਹੈ ਰੀਤਿ ॥੧॥ ਮਨ ਮੂਰਖ ਅਜਹੂ ਨਹ ਸਮਝਤ ਸਿਖ ਦੈ ਹਾਰਿਓ ਨੀਤ ॥ ਨਾਨਕ ਭਉਜਲੁ ਪਾਰਿ ਪਰੈ ਜਉ ਗਾਵੈ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੇ ਗੀਤ ॥੨॥੩॥੬॥੩੮॥੪੭॥: Jagat mai jhoothee dekhee preeti … (sggs 536).

  2. prithvi s dhani

    Ja-o …..ta-o…….. PARAYAM…… KHAYLAN…… kaa……. chaa-o.
    (If you want to play the game of “LOVE” with the Ultimate Creative Energy/God, then you must meet the very first requirement)
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    Sir …….Dhar……. talee……. galee …..mayree……. aa-o.
    (And that first requirement is to present your Ego, mind, head to the LORD by bringing it down and putting it on the palms of your hand and present it to HIM. Give up your Ego and be ready to follow the path of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.When you do that, the LORD will accept you with open arms.)
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    It …..maarag ……pair……. Dhareejai.
    (Because when you start this journey of reuniting/merging with the Ultimate Creative Energy……)
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    Sir……. deejai …..kaan…… na …….keejai. ||20||
    (Then you can not hold even an iota of your Ego to claim as “I”. 100% of it has to be transcended, no exception to the rule. The drop of water is still the drop of water even if it standing right next to the ocean. It must drop into the ocean in order to become ocean, and once its in the ocean, it is not a drop anymore, it is now the ocean) ||20||
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  3. Roop

    Only Love to you beloved T Singh Ji. Only Love! Waheguru

  4. J

    Nice post T Singh Ji !

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