Kabeer, let yourself be like a pebble on the path (become tolerant as the pebble); abandon your egoism.
Such a humble slave will meet God. ||146|| Kabeer, what good would it be,
to be a pebble? It would only
hurt the traveler on the path. Your slave,
O God, is like the dust of the earth. ||147|| Kabeer, what then,
become dust? It is blown up by the wind, and sticks to the body. The
humble servant of God
should be like water, which become like the vessel (i.e., takes the shape of the vessel its kept in) ||148||
Kabeer, what then, if one could become water? It becomes cold, then hot.
The humble servant of God should be just like God ||149|| (sggs 1372).
The Spiritual Quality of true humility belongs to a godly person (the Gurmukh) endowed with Divine
Nature. Such person is humble, modest, and kind; for he never performs any act
that is abominable. Accordingly, humility abides in the Heart of those fortunate
ones who have divinized their inner-being: the mind, intelligence, consciousness,
and ego. Hence the importance of this Divine Virtue
of "humility" is underscored in the Gurbani (Sri Guru Granth Sahib,
SGGS); for one can test and judge himself by this Virtue to see how far his
own Spiritual-Unfoldment is progressed.
True humility is one of the essential qualifications of a godly or a transcendentally
situated person. Other transcendental qualifications follow. By coming in contact with such humble being, a lowly conditioned being
is transformed into the Divine Consciousness!
Humility puts us in a right relation to God and His Creation. Therefore, the Gurbani urges for us to acquire humility. As we will see in the pages that lie ahead,
humility is the state of Being as well as the process of obeying and reconciling
one's life to God's Hukam (Eternal Law or Will), Naam or Shabad.
- ਸੇਵਕ ਸੇਵਹਿ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਹਰਿ ਜਾਤਾ ॥ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤ ਨਾਮਿ ਸਦਾ ਜਨ ਸੋਹਹਿ ਗੁਰਮਤਿ ਹਰਿ ਰਸੁ ਪਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੨॥: Sewak sevahi gurmukh Hari jaataa. Amrit Naam sadaa
jan sohahi gurmat Hari ras paavaniaa ||2||: By becoming a Gurmukh (Spiritual
Being), the humble servant (of the Lord) who serves the Lord, comes to know Him. (By engaging in the Lord's) Amrit Name, those humble
beings look beautiful forever (they beautify their life by engaging in the Lord's Name that provides Spiritual Life). By following Gurmat (Teaching of the Gur-Shabad-Aatam Giaan...), the enjoy the sublime Essence of the Lord||2|| (sggs 126).
Material life or body-consciousness (Maya) makes us very eager to receive honor, flattery,
and recognition from others. The person in true humility is never anxious to
have the satisfaction of being honored, flattered, or recognized by others.
Because such person is in Perfect Knowledge (Aatam-Giaan) or Intuitive
Understanding who knows that he is not this body. To such a person, honor or
dishonor, fame or anything else pertaining to this body is unimportant.
True humility is the recognition of one's imperfections. Further, humility is
to consider others better than yourself. The material conception of life makes
us finding faults in others by ignoring our own; because we are lacking. Due to
this lack, we are unable to recognize our own imperfections. The humble and modest
feeling of being meek and lowly comes when we attains humility. For example, all
God-realized persons are embodiment of true humility; for they always call themselves
meek and lowly. Their pattern of humility is unblemished.
- ਸਰਮ ਸੁਰਤਿ ਦੁਇ ਸਸੁਰ ਭਏ ॥ ਕਰਣੀ ਕਾਮਣਿ ਕਰਿ ਮਨ ਲਏ ॥: Saram surti dui sasur bhae. Karnee kaaman kar man lae: Modesty and intuitive understanding are my parents-in-law; I have made good deeds as my spouse (sggs 152).
Humility is a habit of the mundane mind corresponding to our comparative meanness,
unworthiness and vileness before God (Self or Soul-Nature). A truly humble man
is sensible of the small extent of his knowledge, and the great extent of his
ignorance, and of the limited extent of his understanding as compared with the
understanding of the Lord. He is sensible of his weakness, limited strength, and limited
- ਹਮ ਕੀਰੇ ਕਿਰਮ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਸਰਣਾਈ ਕਰਿ ਦਇਆ ਨਾਮੁ ਪਰਗਾਸਿ ॥੧॥: Ham keere kiram satgur sarnaaee kar daiaa Naam paragaas ||1||:
I am a mere insect, a worm (i.e., ਨਿਮਾਣਾ, poor Jeeva!). O Satgur, I seek Your Sanctuary. Please be merciful,
and bless me with the Light of the Naam, the Lor'd Name ||1|| (sggs 10).
- ਹਮ ਨਹੀ ਚੰਗੇ ਬੁਰਾ ਨਹੀ ਕੋਇ ॥ ਪ੍ਰਣਵਤਿ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਤਾਰੇ ਸੋਇ ॥੪॥੧॥੨॥: Ham
nahee change buraa nahee koi. Pranavat Nanak taarae soi ||4||1||2||: (one who eradicates love of maya, egotism, etc., and same time thinks) I am not better (than others) and no one is bad (than me); Prays Nanak, God ferries him across (the dreadful ocean of Bikaars) ||4||1||2|| (sggs 728).
- ਕਬੀਰ ਸਭ ਤੇ ਹਮ ਬੁਰੇ ਹਮ ਤਜਿ ਭਲੋ ਸਭੁ ਕੋਇ ॥ ਜਿਨਿ ਐਸਾ ਕਰਿ ਬੂਝਿਆ ਮੀਤੁ ਹਮਾਰਾ ਸੋਇ ॥੭॥: Kabeer sabh
te ham bure ham taji bhalo sabh koi. Jin aisaa kari boojhiaa meet hamaaraa soi ||7||:
O Kabeer! (Through the Naam-Simran, since my ego has been eradicated, now I think) I am the worst of all. Everyone else is good. Whosoever understands this
is a friend of mine ||7|| (sggs 1364).
According to the Gurbani, humility is a formidable weapon. This weapon can be
used to cut the roots of arrogant pride and false ego-sense (haumai). It can be used to free
ourselves from ostentatious, assuming, arrogant, scornful, stubborn, and self-justifying
behavior. Thus, humility brings ends to an arrogant and egotistical behavior.
It disposes a person to a condescending behavior to the meekest and lowest and
to treat inferiors with courtesy and affability, as being sensible of his own
weakness and despicableness before God.
- ਹਮ ਅਵਗੁਣਿ ਭਰੇ ਏਕੁ ਗੁਣੁ ਨਾਹੀ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤੁ ਛਾਡਿ ਬਿਖੈ ਬਿਖੁ ਖਾਈ ॥ ਮਾਯਾ ਮੋਹ ਭਰਮ ਪੈ ਭੂਲੇ ਸੁਤ ਦਾਰਾ ਸਿਉ ਪ੍ਰੀਤਿ ਲਗਾਈ ॥: Ham awagun bhare ek gun naahee Amrit shaad bikhai bikh khaaee. Maya moh bharam pai bhoole sut daaraa siou preet lagaaee: We are full of
demerits, and have no merit or virtue. Abandoning the Amrit (Naam, the Lord's Name), we eat just poison instead. Attached to Maya and deluded by doubt, we are lost (i.e., do not know the true Way of life); we have fallen in love (emotional attachment) with our children and spouse (sggs 1406).
- ਗਰੀਬੀ ਗਦਾ ਹਮਾਰੀ ॥ ਖੰਨਾ ਸਗਲ ਰੇਨੁ ਛਾਰੀ ॥ ਇਸੁ ਆਗੈ ਕੋ ਨ ਟਿਕੈ ਵੇਕਾਰੀ ॥ ਗੁਰ ਪੂਰੇ ਏਹ ਗਲ ਸਾਰੀ ॥੧॥: Gareebee gadaa hamaaree. Khanna sagal ren saaree. Is aagai ko na tikai vekaaree. Gur poorai ih gal saaree ||1||: Humility is my spiked club. My dagger is to be the dust of all men's feet. No evil-doer can withstand these weapons. The Perfect Gur has given me this understanding ||1|| (sggs 628).
- ਮਿਠਤੁ ਨੀਵੀ ਨਾਨਕਾ ਗੁਣ ਚੰਗਿਆਈਆ ਤਤੁ ॥: Mithat neevee Naanakaa gun changiaaeeaa tatt: Sweetness of humility, O Nanak, is the essence of all good virtues (sggs 470).
Humility is simply realism. A truly humble person is a perfectly realistic person.
Consequently, a person of humility will have an accurate self-concept. Due to
his Intuitive Understanding of matter and Spirit, he always knows as to where
he stands in the scheme of things.
The word humility is also related to the word "humor". Persons possessing
true humility (Gurmukhs) are full of inner Joy and Humor. To the contrary,
proud, self-absorbed people (Manmukh) don't seem to even laugh much! If Manmukhs do laugh, their laughter is phony, shallow, hurtful and contemptuous.
They could have anything but inner Joy and Peace.
Thus, true humility is in living the Shabad or Divine Name (Aatam-Giaan...).
Thus, true humility in being living liberated - Jeevanmukta - satisfied
and fulfilled, kind and merciful, modest, full of inner beauty, and so on.
- ਸਹਜ ਸੁਹੇਲਾ ਫਲੁ ਮਸਕੀਨੀ ॥ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਅਪੁਨੈ ਮੋਹਿ ਦਾਨੁ ਦੀਨੀ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥: Sahaj suhelaa phal maskeenee. Satigur apunai mohi daan
deenee ||1||Rahaaou||: The fruit of humility is Intuitive Peace (Sahaj Avasthaa - ਆਤਮਕ ਅਡੋਲਤਾ) and pleasure. My Satgur (ਸਚ ਦਾ ਗਿਆਨ...) has given me this gift (of humility) ||1||Pause|| (sggs 235).
- ਤਿਨਾ ਅਨੰਦੁ ਸਦਾ ਸੁਖੁ ਹੈ ਜਿਨਾ ਸਚੁ ਨਾਮੁ ਆਧਾਰੁ ॥: Tinaa anand sadaa
sukh hai jinaa such naam aadhaar: They alone are always in Anand and Happiness who have made the (ਸਦਾ-ਥਿਰ ਨਾਮ) True Naam the support (of their life). (sggs 36).
Humility And Assertiveness
- ਨਾਮੁ ਅਵਖਧੁ ਜਿਨਿ ਜਨ ਤੇਰੈ ਪਾਇਆ ॥ ਜਨਮ ਜਨਮ ਕਾ ਰੋਗੁ ਗਵਾਇਆ ॥: Naam awkhad jin jan terai paaiaa. Janam janam kaa
rog gavaaiaa: Your humble servant, who obtains the Medicine of the
Naam, is rid of the illnesses of countless lifetimes and incarnations (sggs
- ਆਪੁ ਤਿਆਗਿ ਹੋਈਐ ਸਭ ਰੇਣਾ ਜੀਵਤਿਆ ਇਉ ਮਰੀਐ ॥੨॥: Aapu tiaagi hoeeai sabh renaa jeevatiaa iou mareeai ||2||:
Renouncing egoism (ਆਪਾ ਭਾਵ), become humble, the dust of all; in this way,
die while still alive (i.e, become Jeevanmukta) ||2|| (sggs 750).
A Manmukh with self-centered pride (one without humility) may say: "It's
better to be dead than being a warm, insect, lowly, or dust of others feet".
In other words, "what about assertiveness, or my rights?", he may ask.
Humility does not mean one should not assert his rights. Being a Bhagat
does not mean to give up all his rights. Being a humble servant of God does
not mean that you let everybody walk all over you. Or you let this world eat
you up alive! No, that is not what humility is all about.
Humility teaches equality, not manipulation. So does assertiveness. True assertive
behavior is to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety, to express honest
feelings comfortably, and to exercise personal rights without denying the rights
of others. To put it otherwise, true assertiveness is to look not only to one's
own interests but also to the interests of others. Therefore, a true assertiveness
is not the natural tendency of manipulating others so that one's own needs are
met, even at the cost of another persons needs. Neither the true assertiveness
is aggression. Aggression is unhealthy and inappropriate, but the true assertiveness
is healthy and appropriate.
A step-by-step analysis will show us that the true humility is essential for
true assertiveness. According to the Gurbani, fearlessness is an essential quality
of a Bhagat (the Gurmukh). Further, the Gurbani tells us that one cannot become a Bhagat without true humility! What it means is that, in order for one to be
a truly assertive person, he must be fearless. Therefore, for one to be a truly
assertive, he has to possess true humility. This is the reason in Gurmat
(Divine Teaching of the Gurbani, SGGS), a truly humble person is equated to
a saint as well as a soldier (Sant-Sipaahee). Thus, without true humility,
there can only be aggression, manipulation, anxiety, hate and hurt, but not
Humility And Pride
- ਸਰਨਿ ਪਰਿਓ ਨਾਨਕ ਠਾਕੁਰ ਕੀ ਅਭੈ ਦਾਨੁ ਸੁਖੁ ਪਾਇਓ ॥੨॥੩॥੧੨॥: Saran pario Nanak thaakur kee abhai daan sukh paayo:
Nanak has entered the Sanctuary of his Lord, and has received the blessings
of fearlessness and peace ||2||3||12|| (sggs 498).
Self-centered pride is the opposite of humility. The former is a demoniac quality,
and the latter is all Divine. According to the Gurbani, if one is humble,
he considers himself the servant of God. He will never
feel or act superior to others.
Humility is the product of Goodness. On the other hand, self-centered pride
is the product of our evil nature. Every problem of this material life can be
traced to our arrogant pride stemming from psychological ego (Haumai). For example, it
is our pride that keeps us in the cycle of repeated pain and delusion.
It is good to have healthy self-esteem, satisfaction or delight in one's accomplishments.
However, what is undesirable is the conceited attitude and feelings of superiority
over others. Unfortunately, from our very childhood, this is exactly what we
are taught — to feel superior to others!
What are the symptoms of false pride? A person inflicted with this disease
finds himself on a "head trip"; his behavior is arrogant; he talks "up" or
"down" to people rather than "to" them; he always wants to have his own way,
even at the cost of another persons needs; he always seeks for name, fame, flattery,
recognition and praise; he likes to be blessed by others rather than he blessing
them; he has boastful attitude and constant comparison to others; his relationship
with his God, his real Self, and others takes the back seat; he lacks the concern
for others; and so on.
- ਵਿਚਿ ਹਉਮੈ ਕਰਮ ਕਮਾਵਦੇ ਜਿਉ ਵੇਸੁਆ ਪੁਤੁ ਨਿਨਾਉ ॥: Vichi haumai karam kamaavde jiou vesuaa put ninaaou: Those who do their deeds in ego (remain Fatherless or Godless. They) are like the prostitute’s son, who (cannot tell) the name (of his biological father) (sggs 82).
- ਤਜਿ ਅਭਿਮਾਨੁ ਜਨਮ ਮਰਣੁ ਨਿਵਾਰਹੁ ॥ ਹਰਿ ਕੇ ਦਾਸ ਕੇ ਚਰਣ ਨਮਸਕਾਰਹੁ ॥੨॥: Taj abheemaan janam maran nivaarahu. Hari ke daas ke
charan namaskaaragu ||2||: Renounce your arrogant pride, and end the cycle
of birth and death. Bow in humility to the feet of God’s servants ||2|| (sggs 191)
- ਬੁਧਿ ਗਰੀਬੀ ਖਰਚੁ ਲੈਹੁ ਹਉਮੈ ਬਿਖੁ ਜਾਰਹੁ ॥: Budh gareebee kharach laihu houmai bikh jaarahu: Take wisdom and humility as your supplies, and burn away the poison of ego or Haume (sggs 399).
As made very clear by the Gurbani, true humility is essential for linking with
our Mool within (Source, Origin...). Without humility there can be no Self-realization.
Baabaa Nanak's entire life is exemplary in this regard — he always prayed God
for two things: humility, and Naam).
In addition to Self-realization, humility is also essential for all human relationships,
especially good parenting, happy marriage, and so on. Humility enables us to recognize
and account for needs of children, spouse and others. When we do that, our needs
are more likely to be met than when we demand our needs without regard for feelings
and needs of others. Thus, humility puts us in a right relation to God and His
Creation. This is an essential starting point for selflessness.
- ਨਾਮੁ ਜਪੇ ਨਾਮੋ ਆਰਾਧੇ ਤਿਸੁ ਜਨ ਕਉ ਕਰਹੁ ਸਭਿ ਨਮਸਕਾਰੁ ॥ ਮਲੁ ਕੂੜੀ ਨਾਮਿ ਉਤਾਰੀਅਨੁ ਜਪਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਹੋਆ ਸਚਿਆਰੁ ॥: Naam jape naamo aaraadhe tis jan kaou karo sabh namaskaa.
Mal kooree Naam utaareean jap Naam hoaa sachiaaar: Let all bow in humility
to that humble being who engages in Naam Jap, and meditates on it (Understaning the Gurbani's Giaan...). The Naam washes
off the filth of falsehood; by the Naam Jap, one becomes truthful (sggs
- ਨਾਮੁ ਸਿਰੋਮਣਿ ਸਰਬ ਮੈ ਭਗਤ ਰਹੇ ਲਿਵ ਧਾਰਿ ॥: Naam siromani sarab mai bhagat rahe liv laae:
The Naam is the most sublime of all; Bhagat remain lovingly attuned
to it (sggs 1393).
A lifestyle without humility exhibits undesirable qualities such as false pride,
egocentric life, lust, haughtiness, worldly attachment, wickedness, guile, jealousy,
evil instincts, hate, envy, anger, greed, arrogance, inordinate ambition, faultfinding,
self-righteousness, animosity, duality, fear, selfishness, quarrel, slandering,
lower quality thoughts, aggressiveness, cruelty, prejudices, cheating, lie, hypocrisy,
deceptiveness, and so on.
- ਹਰਿ ਜਨੁ ਪਰਵਾਰੁ ਸਧਾਰੁ ਹੈ ਇਕੀਹ ਕੁਲੀ ਸਭੁ ਜਗਤੁ ਛਡਾਵੈ ॥੨॥: Harijan parvaar saadhaar hai ikeeh kulee sabh jagat
shadaavai ||2||: (sggs 166).
How can we replace the demoniac qualities with the Divine Virtue of humility? We
are urged by the Gurbani to become humble or Spiritual Beings (the Gurmukh); for God is only
known to humble Souls. Therefore, to acquire humility, we need to replace our
fleshly nature with the nature of God — Pure Consciousness. Also, we need to annihilate
the instinctive mind, and renew it with God's Name (Giaan...) as we strive for humility.
- ਸਾਕਤ ਕਉ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤ ਬਹੁ ਸਿੰਚਹੁ ਸਭ ਡਾਲ ਫੂਲ ਬਿਸੁਕਾਰੇ ॥ ਜਿਉ ਜਿਉ ਨਿਵਹਿ ਸਾਕਤ ਨਰ ਸੇਤੀ ਛੇੜਿ ਛੇੜਿ ਕਢੈ ਬਿਖੁ ਖਾਰੇ ॥੫॥: Saakat kaou amrit bahu sinchahu sabh daal phul bisukaare.
jiou jiou nivahi saakat nar setee sherr sherr kadhai bikh khaare ||5||: A Saakat or a faithless
cynic (is like a venomous tree); he may be totally drenched with Amrit, but even so, all his
branches and flowers are filled with venom. The more one bows down in humility
before the Saakat, the more he (Saakat) spits out
his bitter poison ||5|| (sggs 983).
Those trying to cultivate humility are counseled by the Gurbani to pursue heartfelt
Love (Bhagti), Divine Knowledge (Aatam-Giaan),Shabad-Vichaar, so on and so forth. Such Divine
Virtues will lead one to experience God's Goodness, Love, and Infiniteness, and
his own nothingness.
- ਮਨਿ ਜੀਤੈ ਜਗੁ ਜੀਤੁ ॥: Mani jeetai jagu jeet: If you conquer the mind, you conquer the material world (sggs 6).
Proper understanding of humility can be realized by diligently studying the Gurbani (Shabad-Vichaar)
and by associating with the Gurmukh.
- ਧਿਆਇ ਧਿਆਇ ਜੀਵਹਿ ਜਨ ਤੇਰੇ ਸਚੁ ਸਬਦੁ ਮਨਿ ਮਾਣੋ ਜੀਉ ॥੨॥: Dhiaai dhiaai jeevahi jan tere sach shabad man maane
jeeo ||2||: Your humble servants live by meditating on You. Their minds treasure
the True Shabad ||2|| (sggs 107).
- ਆਪੁ ਬੀਚਾਰੇ ਸੁ ਗਿਆਨੀ ਹੋਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Aap beechaare su giaanee hoee ||1||Rahaaou||:
One who engages in Vichaar (ਆਤਮਕ ਜੀਵਨ ਦੀ ਪੜਤਾਲ) becomes truely Wise or Giaanee (ਆਤਮਕ ਜੀਵਨ ਦੀ ਸੂਝ ਵਾਲਾ) ||1||Pause|| (sggs 152).
- ਨਾਨਕ ਸਬਦੁ ਵੀਚਾਰੀਐ ਪਾਈਐ ਗੁਣੀ ਨਿਧਾਨੁ ॥੮॥੧੦॥: Nanak Sabad vichaareeai paaeeai gunee nidhaan ||8||10||:
Nanak, by Shabad Vichaar, one obtains the treasure of the spiritual wisdom ||8||10|| (sggs
A big part of humility is true contentment (Sat Santokh). All desires
and related fears bind us to the material plane (Maya). They draw us to objects
of senses, the senses overwhelm the mind, the sense-blind mind enslaves the soul. A man of no want has everything! True contentment
is gained by getting rid of desires; worldly as well as celestial. Thus, true
contentment is rejoicing in every situation or adversity.
- ਸੋ ਜਨੁ ਰਲਾਇਆ ਨਾ ਰਲੈ ਜਿਸੁ ਅੰਤਰਿ ਬਿਬੇਕ ਬੀਚਾਰੁ ॥: So jan ralaaeiaa naa ralai jis anthar bibaek beechaar: Those humble beings who are filled with keen discriminating wisdom and Self-inquiry - even though they intermingle with others, they remain distinct (sggs 28).
- ਭਾਈ ਰੇ ਸੰਤ ਜਨਾ ਕੀ ਰੇਣੁ ॥ ਸੰਤ ਸਭਾ ਗੁਰੁ ਪਾਈਐ ਮੁਕਤਿ ਪਦਾਰਥੁ ਧੇਣੁ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥: Bhaaee re sant janaa kee ren. Sant sabhaaa Gur paaeeai
mukti pdaarath dhen |1||Rahaaou||: O bother, become the dust of
the feet of the humble Saints. In the Society of the Saints, the Guru (Aatam-Giaan) is found.
He is (like the) Kaamdhen, that liberates us (from Bikaars, Maya...) ||1||Pause|| (sggs 18).
We are urged by
theGurbani to be persistent in achieving humility in spite of worldly obstacles
that distract us from this goal of Spiritual Perfection.
ਸੰਜਮੁ ਸਤੁ ਸੰਤੋਖੁ ਸੀਲ ਸੰਨਾਹੁ ਮਫੁਟੈ ॥: Sanjam sat santokh seel sannaahu maphutai:
The armor of self-restraint, true contentment and humility can never
be pierced (sggs 1397).
- ਨਿਵਣੁ ਸੁ ਅਖਰੁ ਖਵਣੁ ਗੁਣੁ ਜਿਹਬਾ ਮਣੀਆ ਮੰਤੁ ॥ ਏ ਤ੍ਰੈ ਭੈਣੇ ਵੇਸ ਕਰਿ ਤਾਂ ਵਸਿ ਆਵੀ ਕੰਤੁ ॥੧੨੭॥: Niwan su akhar khavan gun jihba maneeaa mant. Ye trai
bhaine ves kar taa vas aavee kant ||127||: Humility is the word, forgiveness is the virtue, and sweet speech
is the magic mantra. Wear these three robes, O sister, and you will captivate
your Husband God ||127|| (sggs 1384).
- ਹੋਇ ਸਗਲ ਕੀ ਰੇਣੁਕਾ ਹਰਿ ਸੰਗਿ ਸਮਾਵਉ ॥: Hoi sagl kee renukaa hari sang samaavo: Become humbe, the dust of all men's feet; and so merge with the Divine (sggs 322).
— T. Singh
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